Do you love yourself?
Unconditionally? Even when you're a spaz or when you make a terrible
mistake or when you hurt someone's feelings?
How many of us can truthfully
answer yes?
This is the journey that I am on
right now. A spiritual teacher suggested it. She said
the best thing that any of us can do is to practice self-love for an entire
year. Constantly ask yourself "what would someone who loves herself
do?" when faced with decisions. I decided to start on the fall
equinox, which was almost six months ago.
How's it going? I am still struggling a
little to get my intuition working. Right now it feels like my ego and my
inner child are two squabbling children who don't know how to share the
flingin, flangin chalk. It is exhausting trying to re-parent myself, to monitor
my internal mood, to try to just do things that make me happy. My ego has
been screaming out for so long that my inner child has just stopped trying.
I think it's working, though.
I have so much more confidence than
I did at the beginning of 2015. I'm starting to believe that I am
worthwhile, that I actually deserve to be happy. I know that I have a
long way to go still, to becoming the person that I deserve to be, but I
honestly cannot believe how far I have already come since January, when I decided
to practice positive thinking and gratitude. I can't even believe how far
I have come since 2012, or even 2010.
The best thing I ever did was get
out of a toxic relationship. Not a romantic relationship, although that
had its major issues as well, but a friendship. Something that can be
even harder to get out of than a boyfriend/girlfriend situation.
I think part of the healing for me
is not pretending that I am some sort of saint or martyr for putting up with
bullshit. It was not fair of her to treat me the way that she did, but I
also was not supremely innocent. The biggest step that I made in my
healing was to forgive myself for reacting the way that I did, to realize that
I hurt feelings too, to realize that yes, I allowed it to happen. I needed to
take ownership of that in order to be free.
I saw her, recently, at a mutual
friend's wedding. I had made such a huge deal about it in my brain, but
Miss Toxicity didn't even come over to say hello to me. She didn't
acknowledge my presence. Yes, I was nervous, and yes I was worried, but I
wasn't going to make a big deal about it. I got more worried about dressing up
to go see my best friend the next day than I did about that wedding, because I
realized that I don't care what Miss Toxicity thinks anymore. And that is
the most self loving thing that I could do.
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